The benefits of an elder care consultant are:

* Understand the needs of the parent(s) and family members
* Meet with the parent and family members separately and/or together to diffuse tension
* Facilitate communication
* Help a family member or members with emotional issues that are impacting their ability to think clearly about the situation
* Reduce the emotional stress
* Resolve conflict so that the parent(s) are better cared for and family members can be more supportive of one another
* Develop a family care plan (more clearly define roles and expectations of family members), in order to carry out the wishes of the parent(s)

When a person becomes elderly and has greater needs there is additional stress placed on the family. The adult children are forced to interact with one another. Family members’ views and their ideas of how the roles should be executed vary. Even family members who would otherwise get along may have difficulty, given the stress of the demands, change in roles, and grieving the loss of a parent. There may already exist strained relationships among the children who really do not want to cooperate. Also, each adult child will have different relationships and roles within the family and to each parent. They will also be at different stages in their own lives. Some will have more or less of time, finances, or emotional support to help an aging parent. Issues of equality and fairness become apparent. All of these factors can threaten family relations in the years to come. Conflict, disagreement, and poor communication can cause additional stress to the aging parent.

Although, each family is unique, here are some examples where a family consultant could be of benefit:

* A mother of 5 in her mid 80s who has suffered a broken hip and has the beginning stages of dementia. Decisions need to be made to move her to an assisted living community. Amidst these decisions are decisions about managing her finances, real estate property, and looking over her will. Among the 5 adult children there are disagreements about every aspect of her care. This occurred even though a will had been done and power of attorneys appointed.

* A mother in her late 70s with an adult daughter, age 50, living with her. There is one son who lives two hours away. The son is accusing his sister of mismanaging the mother’s finances. He worries that his sister has a drinking problem, and that she is not adequately caring for the mother. The mother continues to allow her daughter to live with her, stating, “Where else would she live?” The mother is competent and does not allow the son to have any say regarding her affairs.

* A very successful business man in his early 90s suffering from dementia. He is married to his wife of 60 years. She has suffered a mild stroke 5 years earlier, but states she can continue to care for him. There are two adult children, one is single, working full time and the other is married living out of state. They both agree that more care is needed, but cannot agree on the type of care, nor how much to spend. The daughter who lives close by resents that the majority of the responsibility is falling on her. She feels that her sister does not fully understand the level of need of her parents, nor the time it demands from her.

In each of these three scenarios an elder care consultant would be helpful in talking with the various family members so that their parent’s wishes would be honored, the elderly parent would be adequately cared for, and family relations would be preserved as much as is possible. Often times, when these underlying emotional/relational issues are addressed, the necessary decisions can be made with far less stress. An elder care consultant can make the difference to a family’s emotional health by becoming another vital part of the team in an elder state plan.

Linda Nastari is a licensed couples and family counselor in San Jose, CA, where she specializes in providing family and relationship counseling. For more information, please visit Linda’s website at http://www.associatedcounselors.com.

Two Roles Required To Protect Your Children
There are two roles you should assign and document in the event you suddenly die and leave children behind. Our mission today is to provide easy, money saving tips and more information about estate planning terms that are commonly used.

1. Custodian; Provides Physical Care
You must have specific instructions in your will or trust about who you want to raise your children. The court will have little reason not to honor your request. This is especially critical for single parents who do not have a spouse as a backup. Naming a guardian in your will or trust gives you peace of mind that your child’s head will lie on the pillow of your choosing after you are gone.

2. Guardian; Manager Of Money
Taking care of the day to day needs of your children (food, clothing shelter) is one thing, but where will the money come from to support them? What happens if you neglect to arrange for your property to be managed by someone? The courts will decide for you and name a “property guardian”. Why let the government get involved when you don’t have to?

How To Protect Your Children By Naming Guardians
Who can you trust to manage the money that is left behind for your children until they become adults? The person who you entrust with the day to day physical care of your children does not have to be the same person that you put in charge of managing the money and other inheritance left for them.
In many cases there are life insurance policies and social security payments that have to be dealt with. Any inheritance of money or property (jewelry, family heirlooms, furniture, etc.) that you wish to leave for your children is at risk (or at best, faces a significant delay in getting to the person you intended) without a will or trust.

Match The Skills Needed To The Best Available Person
The person you ask to manage the inheritance does not have to be the same person that you authorize to take physical care of the kids. There are good guidelines to consider when you think about how to choose an executor to carry out the wishes outlined in your will. Even if you choose to name the same person to handle both the inheritance and the caretaking of the children, you should specifically state that in your will or trust to avoid any confusion or delay. Leave nothing to interpretation.

Keep in mind that the person you ask to manage the financial affairs for your children must do so until the kids are at least 18 years old. If your children are young, choosing an elderly grandparent to serve in this role might not be the best option.

Selecting An Age To Dissolve A Trust
Another consideration for parents when writing their will or trust is if age 18 is satisfactory to them to provide the children access to the financial assets left behind. If you think 18 is too young you can select an older age and document that in your will or trust. Waiting until they are 21 or 25 is not an uncommon selection by parents. Once the children reach the age you specify, the trustee will dissolve the trust and transfer access to leftover assets to your children.

Specific Instructions Are Welcome
The beautiful thing about naming a trustee to watch over the financial affairs of your children is that if you happen to die your instructions must be followed. The trustee has to act in the best interest of your children and obey instructions that you put in writing in the trust. For example, there is nothing wrong with you putting specific instructions in your will or trust that tell the trustee to purchase a car for the children upon their 16th birthday. You can put as many specific instructions as you like.

Protecting Your Children Requires That You Do Something
When it comes to documenting how you wish your children to be raised after you are gone, the most important thing to remember is to do something. Avoid procrastination. You never know what can happen; that’s why they call it a tragedy. Take control so that the courts don’t have to do it for you.

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While many of the emotions that follow a loss may be surprising, overwhelming, and even frightening, they are all normal reactions that you need to come to accept in order to move through the grief process and move forward in life.

That having been said, everyone experiences grief differently and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. However, there are healthy ways to help you cope with grief so that you can not only move forward again but also strengthen and enrich your life.

Unique Experiences of Grief

Grieving is a personal and highly individual experience.

While grief may be most commonly associated with the death of a loved one, grief is actually a normal response to any loss, including:

* Losing a significant friendship

* A relationship breakup, separation, or divorce

* Moving away from home

* Loss of health due to a serious illness or disability

* A miscarriage or abortion

* Job loss, retirement, or financial instability

* Having to let go of a long-cherished dream

* Loss of safety and trust due to trauma

How you experience grief will depend on numerous factors, not the least of which is the significance of the loss itself. Although more significant losses tend to be followed by more intense and prolonged grieving, this is not always the case. But in all cases, grieving takes time.

How much time? Unfortunately, the grief process doesn’t follow a timetable. Some men and women may start to feel better in just a few weeks, for others it may take months, and for some the grief process may last years.

Regardless of how long it takes you to grieve, you must learn to be patient with yourself and to allow healing to occur gradually and at your own pace.

But Doesn’t Grief Occur in Stages?

Many people are familiar with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’ “five stages of grief”:

1. Denial

2. Anger

3. Bargaining

4. Depression

5. Acceptance

While these stages can help people acknowledge their grief and recognize that what they’re experiencing is natural, Kubler-Ross never meant for these stages to be applied as a rigid framework for the grieving process. As Kubler-Ross stated, “They [the stages] were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives.”

So, contrary to popular belief, most people don’t experience the “stages of grief” in a neat, sequential order. In fact, many individuals don’t experience all of the stages of grief, and some don’t experience any of them.

When grieving, you shouldn’t worry about what you “should” be feeling, but instead spend your energies on working through the feelings you are experiencing so you can move forward.

Effectively Coping with Grief and Loss

Although everyone experiences loss and grieves in unique ways, the most important factor for anyone looking to cope with and overcome grief is the support of other people.

If you’re not normally comfortable discussing your feelings with others, or find yourself lacking a support network, you should still make every effort possible to find support, share your experience, and not grieve alone:

* Talk with family members and friends — Even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient, there is no better time to ask for and accept the help of loved ones than when you’re grieving.

* Take solace in your faith — If you adhere to a specific religious tradition or set of beliefs, taking part in the mourning rituals and spiritual practices that have meaning for you can be a source of tremendous relief. You can also talk to members of the clergy or other members of your religious community about the feelings and difficulties you’re experiencing.

* Find a grief support group — Grieving can be a very lonely process, especially if you lack a strong support network or if friends and family members don’t share your feelings of loss. Grief and bereavement support groups can be of tremendous benefit, as they allow you to connect with others who’ve shared similar feelings and experiences and try out different coping strategies to manage and resolve your grief.

* Seek the help of a professional grief counselor or therapist — If you’ve been struggling with grief for an extended period of time, or if your grief feels overwhelming and is hampering your ability to fulfill your daily tasks and responsibilities, professional grief counseling can help you work through the emotions that are preventing you from grieving in healthy manner and moving forward in life.

Just remember, whether you rely on your own support network, seek the help of a grief support group, or attend professional grief counseling, sharing your grief with others will not only help lighten the burden of your loss, it is the fastest route to healing from grief and moving forward into the future with confidence and optimism.

Dr. Sherrie Campbell is a licensed counselor in Irvine, CA, where she specializes in providing anxiety and grief counseling. For more information on how you can overcome grief and loss, please visit Dr. Campbell’s website at http://www.creativepsychologicalinsights.com.

Similar to weddings, the program is an important part of the funeral. Organizers take specific care in deciding on the flow for the service, such as the songs and psalms to be used. Funeral programs-often known as funeral bulletins, memorial service programs, obituary programs-function as a guide for the service and help guests enjoy the service more.

At the minimum, memorial bulletins consist of the program for the funeral service and could contain the words for the hymns and songs to be used so that attendees can join in the singing. It could furthermore include information about the departed such as the obituary and life photographs. Many memorial service programs have personalized touches that reflect the personality, character and interests of the dearly departed.

Many funeral homes include the creation of funeral programs together with their service. People also have the option to produce funeral bulletins by themselves using templates available online or using computer software available for this purpose. If they have a color printer at home, they can even print the funeral bulletins themselves. Otherwise, they can take the files to a skilled printer.

Templates for funeral bulletins are available in different themes and styles. Many designs are general enough that it doesn’t matter what religion the burial service is in. This makes it easy to get a template to suit any user. There isn’t any typical length or amount of pages for a funeral bulletin, so it could be as simple or extensive as one wants.

Normally, the ability to do quick and easy modification is what makes templates for funeral programs practical and inexpensive. Some are so user friendly that one only has to decide on a design and provide a photo and the name of the dearly departed. Others permit users to replace their own text or wordings anywhere on the template.

People are not granted lots of time to prepare a funeral, so anything that helps make the task easier and go quicker is welcomed indeed. Using funeral program software or templates is one of those things. The end result is simple but yet has a lot of impact on memorial attendees. It’s also a loving homage so that those left behind can enjoy the life lived by their deceased loved ones

More than a guide, funeral programs can function as keepsakes of a loved one’s life. Using templates, it is easy enough to make mementos that show the personality, character and passions of the loved one. It’s a simple remembrance that can be held in loving memory of the departed, appreciated for years to come.

It is claimed that arranging a funeral is comparable to planning a wedding, only it’s on the opposite side of the spectrum. People normally don’t anticipate arranging a funeral service, but there are some things that must be done once the time comes. Warner provides the best quality Christian cards and funeral programs for your needs

So, the best way to do that is to have a checklist of everything we want done. For those who have already purchased a casket and have made arrangements with the funeral home for services and burial, then most everything has already been taken care of. However, there are still things that can be done to make the viewing, services and burial exactly the way you want it. Let’s face it. You’ve taken the time and made the effort to pick out a casket you like and to have picked out the plot, so why not have everything about it the way you want?

No matter where you live, there will be different types and styles of funerals, but that is not a good reason for you not to have the service you want. There’s no reason why the polite funeral dirges have to be standards, especially when those musical arrangements weren’t a part of your everyday life. And if you weren’t the type to wear a suit and tie or a full fancy dress, then why should you succumb to the mores of the “average”? The answer is, there is no reason why you can’t have a funeral that is just as you lived your life.

Now there are those who do want the funeral home approach. Everything by the numbers, and be done. But if you have your own checklist set up, including what music you want, when you want services to be held, how you want the viewing to be handled, whether a solemn, dignified affair with an open casket, or a festive atmosphere with an open bar, the choice is up to you. And, by law, as long as the local laws and standards are upheld, there’s nothing a funeral home can do about it except make arrangements. With many opting for more than a standard service, many funeral homes are now well equipped to take care of any special arrangements some may have.

After you have decided how you want things handled in the event of your death, sit down with someone who you trust to have your wishes carried out. Casket open or closed, atmosphere, accommodations, when to be buried, and all the other details that would go into any function can be expected to be a part of a funeral. It’s your funeral, make it a good one.

The first thing on a checklist for planning a funeral is picking out a casket and with many styles available, wood, steel and even oversized caskets, finding the one that fits your style should be easy. Stephen Saldana knows that planning for a funeral can be a daunting task but having everything planned, caskets, location, and service, can take the stress out later. 

An estimated 570,000 funerals take place every year in Britain and the associated costs have literally sky rocketed. Burial costs have risen 129% over the last nine year, cremation costs increased by 67% during the same time period, and the overall funeral cost has increased by 32.8% over the last five years. In Britain, the average price of a funeral is around £2,549. These high costs may very well put the relatives of the deceased in quite a predicament. Luckily however, there are a few options that you can turn in order to avoid the problems associated with these rising funeral costs.

You actually have numerous options available to you, which may minimise some of your costs. The main cost while arranging a funeral is that of hiring someone else to do the job. Therefore it is wise to decide beforehand how much work you are willing to share, so that minimal outside assistance is required. By doing so, you will have more control over the entire event and can be in better control of the number of people or services you need to pay for. A renowned magazine has recently stated that Do-it-yourself (DIY) funerals can save up to £800. If no funeral director is hired at all then the cost is reduced further.

There are many other options one can use in order to minimise costs such as directly burying the body. This method eliminates the need of preserving the body or embalming, which leads to a reduction in the funeral cost. Similarly the body can be directly cremated without any preservation techniques. You may also arrange the transportation of the body yourself as a way to avoid extra costs. Also, there is no need to buy an expensive oak casket, while a cheaper one may be used.

If you are still facing problems in regards to paying for the funeral, you may ask the council for monetary assistance, but before you do so check whether the deceased has any personal savings or other pension schemes. These may be mentioned in the dead person’s will and if money is available, the money may be recovered from the deceased’s estate in order to pay for the funeral. Try to arrange the funeral using the options that provide the best value for the money, making sure that quality is not compromised.

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Every year, around 570,000 funerals take place in Britain alone. The type of funeral varies – some may be quite simple, while a few might be very extravagant. In a particular research, it was found that the cost of burials has risen by 129 percent and the cost of cremation by 67% over the last nine years. The overall funeral cost has increased by 32.8 percent over the last 5 yrs. In Britain, the average cost of a funeral is £2,549. Paying these significant amounts may be quite troublesome for the dead person’s relatives, especially when they do not leave behind any money.

Before you start panicking about the cost, first see whether the person has left behind any will that mentions his/her money. This is important, because they may have kept some money aside for their own funeral and this may definitely help with funeral cost, as it can add up quite quickly and in such a short period of time. A will may also mention some specific requests for the funeral arrangements.

You may find some assistance through income support, pension plans, council tax or housing benefits for instance. Hiring a funeral director costs money, therefore it is essential to sort it out beforehand. Burial, headstone, transportation, coffin and flowers are all essential elements of a funeral and each comes with a hefty price tag. Then there is also the cost associated with catering for the gathering. Food and drink, as well as room hire, can add on quite a sum.

If you are facing trouble covering the cost of a friend or relative’s funeral, you can get help with funeral cost, either from the government or you can take out a loan from a bank. If you are the person arranging the funeral the responsibility for paying the bill automatically comes to you. The amount spent on the funeral is also recoverable from the deceased’s estate.

While coping with the staggering cost of a funeral for a friend or relative, many helpful options can be found. Help can either be in the form of a government grant, money from the dead persons pension schemes or personal savings. To get more help, you can consult the funeral director, and make a list of all the costs and services in relation to the funeral. You may then choose an option that provides the best value for the money however, cheaper things do not necessarily mean that they are good.

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In the United Kingdom, there are many websites that provide information on how to carry out a person’s funeral planning. When a person dies, the dead person’s relative or someone close to the deceased must determine whether or not there was a will drawn up. He/she may have specified some special arrangements for their own funeral and if so, it will be clearly specified in the last will and testament. A call must be made to a funeral home in the area so that the process can get underway.

The funeral service will arrive on the scene and transport the body to the funeral home or other another type of funeral facility. Sometimes the deceased may need to be transported to a different city if they passed away far from home. Arranging a funeral can be a rather stressful process. A lot of things need to be decided, such as whether the person will buried or cremated. If the will mentions this, then the process becomes easier and if not, then the decision is up to the relatives or those closest to the person.

A decision must be made regarding what clothes the person will wear – a funeral robe or his/ her own clothing. You must also decide what to do with the jewellery of the person – if they were wearing any. Usually, it is passed down to the relatives or it might be buried along with the body. The type of music to be played at the service must be determined and arranged for. It also must be determined if flowers or donations will be accepted.

If the relatives wish to visit their loved one in the chapel of rest then a procedure called embalming must be carried out. Embalming is the process of temporarily preserving the human remains. All of these processes will be carried out by the funeral director himself as he is fully trained and certified to do so. Relatives and friends can rest assured that the utmost level of professionalism is always maintained.

There are approximately 2,500 funeral directors located throughout the UK. A funeral director, when hired, will see to it that all the arrangements are made surrounding the funeral, beginning with the transport and preparation of the body all the way to helping the family choose a casket or urn and on to the actual burial at the chosen place of rest. It is recommended that any questions surrounding the planning and carrying out of a funeral be directed to the funeral director as he is a trained professional who will gladly answer any questions posed to him.

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While it doesn’t bear thinking about, addressing the issues that will affect our family and loved ones when we die is an important step. Failure to draft up a legally binding will can result in enormous complications in the event of death, and this can be a nasty additional concern for grieving friends and family.

In death, our personal assets, both financial and tangible, are referred to as our estate, and it is the responsibility of the either your executors or the government to ensure that this is divided up amongst our family and other loved ones. If you get a professional executor to deal with your will writing needs, you can make sure that your estate is split up in exactly the way you would like. However, in the absence of a will, the government’s rules of intestacy determine how your assets will be split up, even deciding the future care of younger children should you have any.

The rules of intestacy make it very difficult for your next of kin to organise your estate after your death. Failing to use a professional will writing service means your assets could end up in completely the wrong hands. For example, you may have wished to split assets unequally between your children in the knowledge that one will soon be getting married or having a child and will be in greater need of the money. In more dramatic circumstances, you may wish for your spouse to not receive a penny as you discovered that they were unfaithful. If you fail to write a legally binding will then everything you worked hard for could end up going to completely the wrong people.

It is a harsh reality, but demonstrates how will writing is a genuine necessity. You may think that it is too early in your life to consider what might happen when you die. However, there is no need to worry about the cost of updating your will when your circumstances change, as many professional will writing services will allow you to amend your document several times free of charge. With the peace of mind that your loved ones will be looked after should the unthinkable happen, you can get on with living your life to its fullest.

Anna Stenning is a will writing expert with many years of experience in will drafting. Find out more about will writing at http://www.willdrafters.com/

It is a morbid thought, but drawing up a will is one of life’s little displeasures that you just have to get out of the way. No-one likes having to think about what might happen when they are gone, but it is for that reason that making a will is vitally important – remember, you’re not doing it for yourself, you’re doing it for those you hold dearest.

We have all watched someone we care about pass away and will be well aware that grief can be powerful and consuming. Organising a funeral is often hard enough for the departed’s family, but having to arrange the division of their estate can prove to be a nasty and time consuming business.

Ensuring your will is professionally written can save your next of kin an enormous amount of hassle and angst after you pass away. Not only that, it means that you can guarantee that individual family members and friends are correctly looked after when you are gone. Making a will allows the individual to allocate their estate (a term used to describe their financial assets such as their house, car and savings) to those who they feel will need it most, and also gives the will-holder the opportunity to leave final messages and sentimentally valuable gifts to those who mattered.

There are no guarantees how your estate will be divided if you fail to write a will before your death. Your next of kin has to go through the difficult process of applying to the courts for the power to deal with your estate and once this permission is granted, there is always the possibility of arguments – not the way in which you would wish for your memory to be treated.

This is a scenario that benefits no-one and it is important that you don’t leave making a will too late to ensure your estate is protected. You must still be of your right mind to make such potentially life-altering decisions that will seriously affect your loved ones so it is never too early to consider contacting professional will writers.

Anna Stenning is a will writer with many years of experience in drafting wills. Find out more about making a will at http://www.willdrafters.com/